In your mind, asking for a prenuptial agreement is easy enough. You'll bring it to light, explain why it's a good idea and work with your partner to finalize the details.
While this is your plan, there's no way of knowing how things will go when you finally bring your true feelings to light. It's possible that your partner may not be as excited as you, thus making it more difficult to proceed in an efficient and timely manner.
Fortunately, there are steps you can take to effectively ask for a prenuptial agreement.
- Have a real conversation: Don't assume that issuing demands is the best way to get what you want. This has a way of putting the other person off and making them defensive, thus adding another challenge. Instead of issuing demands, have a real conversation about the pros and cons of creating a prenuptial agreement.
- Talk about your fears: If you have a particular reason for wanting a prenuptial agreement, explain this to your partner. For example, maybe your parents divorced when you were young, which showed you just how important a prenuptial agreement really is.
- Remain calm: There are a lot of emotions associated with this conversation. Becoming angry and upset could result in an argument that jeopardizes your relationship. That's not a risk you want to take.
- Let your partner speak: Even if you have a lot to say, you shouldn't dominate the conversation. Let your partner speak their mind, ask questions and provide their own feedback. Again, this should be an open conversation in which both individuals have a say.
- Don't rush it: Have this conversation well in advance of your wedding, as doing so gives you enough time to work through everything. You may come to find that you can't figure everything out in one sitting.
You are not required by law to create a prenuptial agreement, but doing so can give you peace of mind.
Once you understand the benefits, discuss them with your partner and work toward creating a prenuptial agreement with which both of you are happy.
This doesn't mean you'll go through divorce in the future, but if you do, a prenuptial agreement can help ease the stress associated with the process.