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Be careful of how you ask your spouse for a divorce

As you begin to ponder divorce, you'll come to find that there are many challenges associated with the process. While these challenges shouldn't stop you from proceeding, they'll definitely lead you to think more carefully about your situation.

Asking your spouse for a divorce is one of the most difficult things you'll ever do. Even if you're ready to move on from your marriage, talking about your true feelings is a challenge.

Furthermore, the way you ask for a divorce can impact the process itself. Here are five tips to ease the stress associated with this important conversation:

  • Choose the right time and place: Asking for a divorce at the wrong time and/or in the wrong place will add tension to the conversation. For example, don't ask for a divorce during a family dinner or while you're taking your children to school.
  • Plan what you want to say: There's no way of knowing how the conversation will unfold, but you should at least have a basic plan for what you want to say and how you'll deal with your spouse's reaction.
  • Be ready for everything: Your spouse may begin to cry. Or maybe they become angry and violent. Perhaps they tell you they've been feeling the same way. When you prepare for every reaction, you're able to deal with your situation accordingly.
  • Don't discuss the details: The divorce process requires you to focus on a variety of details, such as property and debt division, child custody and spousal support. Discussing these details shortly after asking for a divorce is likely to cause an argument.
  • Safety comes first: If you believe your safety may be in jeopardy, such as because your spouse has the potential to act violently, don't ask for a divorce in a private setting. It's better to do so on the phone or in a public place.

Asking your spouse for a divorce is never easy, but these tips will put you on the right track. Once you get this initial conversation out of the way, you can turn your attention to the divorce process and the steps you'll take to protect your legal rights.

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